Dysfunctional Relationship???

Lets face it, being in a band can be a wonderful experience but it can also be like hell on earth. You can’t always choose your band members which is truly irritating when personalities clash and you have no way out, which was the case here. However any situation can be turned into a great opportunity with the right attitude.

 In all honesty there was a lot of disagreement, a lot of “be quiet..”, “Do you know your stuff?”, “Yo guys I need to learn this first”, “Stop playing for a minute PLEASE..”, “Man I lost my voice”, “Is …….. away again today?”, , “Sorry guys can we change the key?” followed by a choir of sighs as the band re-learn their parts. Many times we would want to pull our hair out in frustration, but when we really nailed a song.. it felt good.

Let’s face it, being in a band is like being in a dysfunctional relationship. You fight all the time, you hardly ever agree on anything, you spend a lot of time crying, you talk a lot about how you want things to be but it never really turns out that way, but if you work at it long enough, this dysfunctional relationship soon changes into a loving long term commitment.

Bands have ups and downs, heart-breaks, fall outs and frustrations, but bands also have many amazing experiences together. Discovering music in themselves and in each other, laughing uncontrollably at nothing much at all, having deep and meaningful conversations after a long..very long day of rehearsals.

In the end I would not change one thing in these two amazing people, because they showed me a whole other world of music, and nothing can beat the feeling when we are making music together and there’s that moment when the music becomes second nature, the world blurs, and we make eye contact and we know we did it, we nailed it!

Being in a band comes with strings attached, and you need to step outside of yourself to accommodate other people. Personalities will clash, and especially in a group of people who all have alpha personalities if you will,  but in the end it’s the most rewarding experience in the world.